The Difference Between Debauchery and Losing Your Shit

Debauchery is one of our favorite words. Basically, this term refers to anything you do at college that you aren’t going to tell your parents about at the dinner table when you are home for Thanksgiving. They know it happens, but they like to be in denial and look over the questionable things you do on your weekends.The Polos and Pearls team is in full support of leading a debaucherous (99% sure thats a made up term) lifestyle. HOWEVER, there is a clear difference between taking part in the normal college shenanigans and becoming “that girl”. You know what I am talking about; that girl who went to college and went from being a fairly innocent individual to being the communal whore who will trade sex for a handle of vodka. Some people can’t handle the drastic change in culture and the amount of freedom they are granted. Everyone has their moments, but some people undergo a 180 degree transformation. You will come home and be in absolute shock by the stories they tell you. You probably remember the many nights you guys spent Facebook stalking people while watching netflix together, and now they are telling you about the many pregnancy scares they had and the hardcore drug they tried because some semi-decent guy offered it to them. It is important to still love your old friend despite the shit they got themselves into the first semester of college. This is a phase. One day they will go too hard and realize their mistake and limit themselves afterwards. In case you are thinking to yourself “damn, am I that girl?”, here are some examples of how you can cross that fine line that separates a healthy amount of debauchery and becoming a complete ratchet hoe.

Sex. So, if you're in the earlier stages of your college career without a boyfriend, you know that it’s just too early to settle down with one human. This is mostly because guys let their penises run wild making them incapable of a relationship beyond a booty call. It is most certainly acceptable to get your fix every once in a while from someone you do not see a future with. The line here is when your current rate of getting your fix will exceed the average 7 sexual partners before marriage before you are even a sophomore. With this being said, if you have a potential it is not okay to be getting booty from some other hot piece of ass. This is the line. If there is a boy who is decent enough to ask you about your day rather than send a drunk snapchat asking for nudes, it is worth it to give the monogamy a shot. Although this is your time to be adventurous, you should still be on the lookout for husband material because that is the ultimate goal.

Drinking. Drunken nights are one of the most guaranteed forms of entertainment in college. You should obtain extraordinary beer pong skills and a higher tolerance of alcohol in college. The line between a fun night and losing your shit is when you blackout, loose one of your only valuable items, get sent to the hospital, or get a DUI. If you reach a point of intoxication that leads to beyond regrettable events transpiring, you need to adjust your intake. Once in a while, you will take a few more shots than necessary, but your hangover the next day should tell you to slow down next time. You should not always be the friend that needed to be bathed because they are covered in their own vomit. You should take care of your friends as much as they take care of you. If this ratio is not about 1:1, you are in danger of being “that girl”.

Drugs. I personally don’t see a point to doing drugs. The buzz I get from fireball is enough for me, but if you are one of those people that thinks they need to experiment, don’t. Try to stick to one substance abuse problem solution at a time. There are hardcore drugs that should not be touched because you are going for a good time, not ruining your entire life. If you have become a self-proclaimed stoner, you could be crossing the line into “that girl” territory. In addition to these bad drugs, you also encounter the countless amounts of final exam week adderall users. We all forget that college is for studying, but it is important to keep yourself on-track throughout the semester. It is better to avoid cramming an entire semester of knowledge in a single week, so that this temptation isn’t necessary. School is hard, but try to stay away from these “study aids” unless you are prescribed these medications. If you tried any of these things once or twice, there is no judgement, but if you continually require these drugs for a good time or to perform basic human functions, you definitely crossed the line.

Hopefully this saves perfectly nice girls from ruining their lives or taking fun too far. Overall, try to keep it classy. If you encounter friends who have become “that girl”, offer your love and support. They are still your friends, and they will hopefully pick themselves up and leave their ratchet stage behind them soon. Creating good memories and stories is never worth death or jail, so try to stray from these consequences.